The Top 10 Ways For Women To Attract Their Ideal Mate

The Top 10 Ways For Women To Attract Their Ideal Mate

Category: Relationships, Relating, Couples (BB34)

Originally Submitted on 12/16/96.

Women: Ready to attract the mate you've been wanting? Willing to gain a new perspective on yourself and relationships?

1. Understand that you do not NEED a relationship.

There is nothing wrong or any hole that is fixed by a relationship. If there is something to be healed, handle it through therapy or spiritual healing.

2. Know that for you to attract a man is the most natural thing in the world.

You have what they want physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. If you experience struggle or difficulty, you are putting something in the way.

3. Decide what is important to you in your mate and in your relationship.

Visualize yourself having and enjoying all of it. The positive feeling you create from your visualizing pulls more like it to you.

4. Know that women create relationships.

Women choose men. A survey of married couples revealed that women were aware of their potential spouse at least 3 months before the men were aware of them. Keep your attention focused on what you want. There is nothing more powerful than a highly intended woman.

5. Take exquisite care of yourself.

Have the best life you can NOW. Waiting til you have the partner for travel, fun, a nice home, financial planning, etc. is not attractive. P.S. You meet men with similar interests when you do what you like to do.

6. Nothing is more attractive than genuine confidence.

Know that you are sexy, attractive and desireable. Invest in whatever has you feel that way: massages, makeup, exercise, personal development, fresh flowers. Regard yourself as special and men will see you that way, too.

7. Learn from the great femmes fatales.

Watch videos of Mae West, Elizabeth Taylor (Cat On A Hot Tin Roof, Giant) Susan Sarandon (White Palace, Bull Durham) Sophia Loren. Always themselves, always attractive.

8. If what you're doing isn't working, do something else.

Get out of your rut. If you've been dating a lot, stay quiet for a while and get comfortable with yourself. If you're a homebody, get out, go on blind dates, join a dating service. Experiment and be willing to let the universe know you'll do what it takes.

9. Open yourself to viewpoints other than the one you've been looking from.

Read: The Rules (paperback, in any bookstore) How To Marry The Man Of Your Choice by Margaret Kent, Getting To I Do by Dr. Patricia Allen, Keeping The Love You Find by Harville Hendrix.

10. Get support.

Partner up with other women who are committed to having a relationship. Better yet, hire a coach.

About the Submitter

This piece was originally submitted by Susan Wallace, Personal and Business Coach, who can be reached at Starcoach@aol.com. Susan Wallace wants you to know: I am a coach who works with women to have the lives and relationships they desire. I lead teleclasses for women based on the material in this top ten list. The original source is: The author's experience in her life and her marriage.

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