The Top 10 Self-Sabotaging Beliefs
Category: Shifts to Make, Changing Behavior (BT77)Originally Submitted on 11/15/2000.
One's own thought is one's world.
What a person thinks is what he becomes --
That is the eternal mystery.
-The Upanishads (800-600 BC)
1. I am not enough.
(...good enough, smart enough, attractive, interesting, skilled, rich...)
2. I am a victim of ______________
(...my circumstances, my past, my genes, someone's mood...)
3. It is arrogant and egotistical to love oneself.
4. I can not trust myself.
(...my decisions, opinions, preferences, choices...)
5. If I prioritize self-care and my wants, I will be self-centered, negligent of my responsibilities, or unkind to others.
6. If other people are unhappy (angry, upset, disappointed, etc.), I must have done something wrong.
It is my responsibility to make them happy again.
7. I can predict what will happen by what has happened.
Variation: If it has not happened yet, it never will.
8. It is bad to be caught in a mistake or fail.
When I do make a mistake I should feel bad for a long time and be self-deprecating to prove my sincerity.
9. It is wrong (rude, self-centered, pushy, or too scary) to directly ask for what I want.
10. I am not lovable.
Variation: I am not worthy of ______________ (...people's time, love, acknowledgments, respect, help...)
About the Submitter
This piece was originally submitted by Susan W. Abrams, M.Ed., Coach, and Certified Option Process Mentor, who can be reached at susan@susanabrams.net, or visited on the web. Susan W. Abrams wants you to know: A coach can assist you to eliminate limiting mental programming and reprogram your thinking to support life satisfaction and fulfillment. Is it time to upgrade YOUR Personal Operating System? .
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